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the things we forget: what people have been through
We talk about homelessness, addiction, poverty, and people who seem to have given up. But how often do we stop and remember everything that happened before someone reached that point?
People don't all begin in the same place, and they don't all have the same support when life falls apart.
Here are some of the challenges people have faced, especially over the last several years.
1. the pandemic years
- Losing jobs, contracts, businesses, and livelihoods.
- Losing homes because the income needed to keep them disappeared.
- Being separated from family and friends.
- Living with isolation, fear, uncertainty, and grief.
- Facing travel restrictions, testing expenses, quarantine requirements, and lost time.
- Having relationships damaged by disagreements over vaccination and public-health rules.
- Trying to rebuild a life after the emergency measures ended, often without the resources to do so.
Some people, including me, experienced quarantine twice. I spent 30 days in quarantine, wasn't sick, and had to pay for tests before I could return home. Those were real days out of my life, and the experience stayed with me.
Canada's travel rules changed repeatedly throughout the pandemic. For some travellers, testing and quarantine requirements were substantial burdens. Official Canadian border-measures timeline.
2. losing a home
- Rents rising beyond what ordinary people can afford.
- Losing a job and then losing the home that depended on it.
- Being unable to save enough for a damage deposit, first month's rent, or moving expenses.
- Having to rely on friends and family, sometimes at the cost of independence.
- Being told to share a home when privacy and personal safety matter deeply.
- Living with strangers, noise, conflict, insecurity, and the constant worry about belongings.
- Being offered shelter options that don't feel safe or suitable.
- Spending money on storage because there is nowhere permanent to put your possessions.
- Having no car, no stable address, and limited income while trying to navigate an expensive city.
Homelessness isn't always sleeping outside. Sometimes it means sleeping on somebody's couch, watching the calendar, trying not to outstay your welcome, and wondering where you'll go next.
3. poverty that keeps taking
- Living on an income that barely covers food, transportation, telephone bills, and storage.
- Having to choose which bill can wait.
- Losing money to debts, deductions, or benefit repayments.
- Being unable to afford the upfront costs that might help you escape poverty.
- Having to explain your circumstances repeatedly to people who assume you simply haven't tried hard enough.
- Being unable to afford the things that make life feel ordinary: a private room, a quiet night, a decent meal, or a little breathing room.
- Watching an unexpected $100 expense become a crisis.
When you have very little, a small financial setback can have enormous consequences. What looks minor to one person can mean groceries for another.
4. family, friendship, and belonging
- Estrangement from children, parents, siblings, and lifelong friends.
- Losing relationships during the pandemic and never finding a way back.
- Being judged for being poor, unhoused, unemployed, or struggling.
- Depending on someone who later withdraws their help.
- Feeling unwelcome in the very places where you hoped to find safety.
- Carrying grief without having anyone you feel comfortable talking to.
- Watching friends age, become ill, struggle with addiction, or die.
- Being surrounded by people and still feeling profoundly alone.
A person can have family and still have nowhere they feel they belong.
5. the daily exhaustion people don't see
- Poor sleep because the environment is noisy, crowded, or unpredictable.
- Worrying about personal safety while sleeping.
- Having no secure place to keep a phone, money, identification, or a computer.
- Struggling to eat properly or prepare food safely.
- Living with chronic stress while trying to manage ordinary tasks.
- Being physically exhausted from work that is difficult, poorly paid, or insecure.
- Having health concerns without reliable access to care.
- Being expected to make good long-term decisions while dealing with immediate survival needs.
Peace and privacy aren't luxuries for everyone. Sometimes they are what allow a person to recover enough to keep going.
6. young people growing up in a world of loss
Think about the young people in Vancouver who have lost friends to the toxic drug supply.
Some have lost a parent. Some have attended funerals for friends they thought would grow old beside them. Some have watched people they love struggle with addiction, homelessness, trauma, or mental illness.
They are left with grief, unanswered questions, and the knowledge that another phone call could bring more terrible news.
British Columbia recorded 2,253 deaths from unregulated drug toxicity in 2024. Preliminary reporting for 2025 later recorded 1,826 deaths. Even with that decrease, thousands of families, friends, and communities have been affected. BC Coroners Service, 2024 data and 2025 data.
Behind every number was a person. Someone had a favourite song, a laugh, a history, and people who cared about them.
7. why might someone turn to drugs, or feel like checking out?
There is no single explanation, and we should never assume we know an individual's story.
But people may use substances to cope with physical pain, trauma, grief, loneliness, mental distress, or circumstances that feel unbearable. Some are trying to quiet their thoughts for a little while. Some are trying to feel something other than pain. Some are dealing with dependence that has become very difficult to manage.
Others may reach a point where they cannot imagine how their circumstances could change.
That doesn't mean every person who uses drugs wants to die. It doesn't mean poverty inevitably leads to addiction. And it doesn't mean we should give up on anyone.
It means we need to look beyond the behaviour and ask what is happening in that person's life.
And fentanyl makes an already dangerous situation far deadlier. In an unregulated drug supply, people may not know exactly what they are taking or how potent it is.
Understanding someone's pain is not the same as accepting that they should be left to suffer.
8. what happens when society stops seeing people?
We start describing people as burdens, addicts, failures, freeloaders, or lost causes.
We ask why they don't work harder, move somewhere cheaper, find a room, reconcile with their family, or simply make better choices.
But what if they have already tried?
What if they are exhausted? What if their family is gone? What if every affordable room requires sharing with strangers? What if they cannot afford to move? What if they have been trying for years?
What if the person standing in front of us is not someone who never tried, but someone who has run out of options?
We cannot know without listening.
9. what we need to remember
- Housing is stability, not just a roof.
- Food security is dignity, not a reward for being productive.
- Privacy and safety matter.
- Grief can change a person's life for years.
- Addiction is not a complete description of a human being.
- Poverty is not proof of laziness.
- A person can be struggling without being incapable.
- People need support before a crisis becomes a catastrophe.
- Young people need hope, connection, and places where they are wanted.
- Saving lives requires more than counting deaths after they happen.
We cannot bring back everyone who has died. But we can stop treating the people who remain as if their suffering is an inconvenience.
the question we should be asking
I think about how many people have lost their footing since 2019. I think about people who once worked, paid rent, raised children, made art, travelled, and had plans for their future.
Then something happened. Sometimes several things happened, one after another.
And now they are expected to explain why they haven't recovered.
Perhaps we should ask a different question.
What happened to you? What have you lost? What are you carrying? And what would help you feel safe enough to begin again?
We cannot undo every injustice. We cannot promise that life will be fair. But we can listen without humiliating people, offer help without demanding that they prove their worth, and make sure our neighbours know they have not become invisible.
Because the people we call homeless, addicted, broken, or lost are still people.
They are somebody's child, somebody's friend, somebody's parent. They are people who have lived through things we may never fully understand.
And they are still here.
Let's remember that.
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Trigger warning: This article discusses homelessness, poverty, grief, addiction, the toxic drug supply, overdose deaths, and thoughts of suicide. Some of these subjects may be painful for readers who have experienced loss, trauma, or difficult circumstances themselves. Please take care of yourself while reading, and step away if you need to.
This article is intended to encourage understanding, compassion, and discussion. It is not intended to diagnose, judge, or diminish anyone's personal experience.
If you or someone you know is struggling, support is available:
- Canada Suicide Crisis Helpline: Call or text 988, free, 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
- BC Mental Health Support Line: Call 310-6789 (no area code required), 24 hours a day.
- Crisis Centre BC: Visit "crisiscentre.bc.ca" (https://crisiscentre.bc.ca/) for support and resources.
- Immediate danger: Call 911.
If you are grieving someone who has died, struggling with substance use, or simply finding life difficult to manage, you deserve compassion and support. You do not have to wait until things become unbearable to reach out.
Please remember: behind every statistic is a human life, and behind every loss are people who continue to grieve. Let's talk about these realities with care, respect, and kindness.



