Showing posts with label sociopath. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sociopath. Show all posts

Thursday, July 10, 2025

Stupid Is as Stupid Does” — Labels, Warnings, and When Language Hurts

 “Stupid Is as Stupid Does” — Labels, Warnings, and When Language Hurts

By Tina Winterlik aka Zipolita

I recently heard MSNBC’s Lawrence O’Donnell call Donald Trump “stupid” on national television.
He didn’t stop there. He said Trump was “trapped in his stupidity,” launching into a fiery takedown that felt more like a performance than journalism.

And I thought—we’re going in circles.

This isn’t how news should sound.
It shouldn’t echo reality TV or viral outrage clips.
It should inform, not entertain at the expense of reason.

It reminded me of Forrest Gump:
“Stupid is as stupid does.”
That line wasn’t meant to insult—it was about actions.


🌊 Driftwood, Name-Calling, and Breaking the Cycle

Just yesterday, I was upset watching someone hack up a beautiful driftwood log that had rested on our beach for over 50 years. In frustration, I muttered, “Trumpster…”

And then I caught myself.

Name-calling doesn’t solve anything. It just keeps the fire going.


πŸ’¬ My Friend Who Shouts “Ya Dummy!”

My 76-year-old friend used to say, “Ah, I’m so stupid,” every time something went wrong.
I gently encouraged him over time to stop saying that.

Now, when someone cuts him off in traffic, he just says:
“Ya dummy!”

Better, maybe. But words still matter.


πŸ”₯ A Wound from the Past

A few years ago, I was in a reconciliation and carving program.
We were creating two powerful pieces:

  • One to honour the children who never came home from Residential Schools,
  • And another for the Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women.

It was emotional, intense, and sacred.

In a group chat, I posted something calling Trump a sociopath.
I didn’t mean to diagnose—I meant to warn.
But the word hit a nerve.

One First Nations participant, someone brave and open about their struggles and hopes, called me out.
They said my words were racist.
Another friend had posted a similar thought—and things spiraled.

I left the group.

Not because I didn’t care—but because it hurt so much.
And I realized: we weren’t just arguing about Trump.
We were navigating deep wounds.
Trauma. Power. Trust.


🧠 Why I Said Sociopath

When I used the word “sociopath,” I wasn’t trying to excuse him.
I was trying to alert others to the danger.
But I now see that words like that—especially in cross-cultural spaces—can be misunderstood.

What sounds like concern to one person can sound like protection to another.
Especially when it's about someone in power who has caused so much harm.


πŸ“Ί Why Are Newscasters Talking Like This?

Why are American newscasters sounding like celebrity roasters?
Why are they stooping to name-calling—on air?

Is this really how we challenge authoritarianism?
By sounding like the very thing we’re fighting?

We need anchors and journalists who report with truth and professionalism, not sarcasm and soundbites.


πŸ” Closing the Circle

This isn’t just about Trump.

It’s about how we speak.
How we treat each other when we’re angry.
How we hold ourselves accountable when we mess up.
And how we try to grow—even when it’s messy.

We don’t have to be perfect.
We just have to try not to become what we’re resisting.

Even if all we can say in the heat of the moment is:
“Ya dummy!”
Let it be a reminder of our shared humanity—and our ability to do better.


❤️ If You’ve Ever Felt Misunderstood…

I see you.
You’re not alone.
Let’s keep the conversation going—with truth, care, and courage.


πŸ”– Keywords:

Trump, sociopath, reconciliation, language, Indigenous, media, namecalling, trauma, journalism, truth


Thursday, July 21, 2016

Bernie, RNC Convention & Jon Stewart

I just saw a little bit of the Republican Convention on tv, it was truly terrifying the hate Trump was spewing. When is he going to say this was all some bizarre joke...he basically says "he's not allowed in his country"(Good kick him out...but where? no one would want him! )

Does he not hear himself??

"Anyone who endorses violence, hatred or oppression is not welcome in our country and never will be."

(Are his speech writers sending a message...are the trying trick him...what the heck is going on.)

This is just so bizarre, here is his leaked speech. It was so scary, sickening and dark I had to turn it off.

http://www.politico.com/…/full-transcript-donald-trump-nomi…

Bernie we need you or Jill Stein to save the day!!

Bernie Watching the RNC
Bernie Sanders

Will Trump mention climate change, the great environmental crisis of our time? Been waiting for a year now. Those who voted for me will not support Trump who has made bigotry and divisiveness the cornerstone of his campaign. We believe in bringing people together, not dividing them up. #RNCwithBernie  













Saturday, May 28, 2016

Bernie Speak the Truth! Go Bernie!!

I Love Bernie!! He speaks the truth!


Donald Trump would be a danger to the world.
He's a sociopath. 



Everyone is entitled to basic rights of food, shelter, health care.
If I was an American I would vote for him!!

Go Bernie! Go Bernie!

 
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Who's a Sociopath? and How to Protect Yourself!  
https://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2015/06/whos-sociopath-and-how-to-protect.html

Monday, February 29, 2016

Let's Make Donald Drumpf Again!!!


#MakeDonaldDrumpfagain
http://www.donaldjdrumpf.com/

“At this point, Donald Trump is America’s back mole,” Oliver said on Sunday’s episode. “It may have seemed harmless a year ago, but now that it’s become frighteningly bigger, it’s no longer wise to ignore it.”





Trump's name is actually Drumpf!!



Watch this video. 
Please don't vote for that sociopath.






 Who's a Sociopath and how to protect yourself.
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2015/06/whos-sociopath-and-how-to-protect.html


Related Links
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2016/02/when-will-you-speak-up.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2016/02/have-you-heard-bernies-speeches-from.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2016/02/pt-3-great-songs-that-have-inspired-me.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2016/02/pt-2-great-songs-that-have-inspired-me.html 
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2016/02/pt-1-great-songs-that-have-inspired-me.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2016/02/check-out-raffis-video-for-his-song.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2016/02/vote-for-bernie-and-remain-engaged.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2015/11/have-you-heard-of-peace-prayer-flag.html 

Related Links on Trumps Hatred:
http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/dec/08/scale-of-donald-trumps-discrimination-debases-currency-of-democracy

http://www.thenation.com/article/the-hate-behind-donald-trumps-success/
http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/gadgets-and-tech/news/donald-trump-muslim-hate-speech-facebook-a6774676.html

http://www.cnn.com/2016/01/08/politics/donald-trump-muslim-woman-protesting-ejected/

http://www.truthdig.com/report/item/donald_trumps_south_carolina_victory_and_anti-muslim_hatred_20160221

http://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-35041402

http://globalnews.ca/news/2544866/donald-trump-almost-certain-to-be-the-next-president-professor/?sf21647837=1

Friday, June 26, 2015

Who's a Sociopath? and How to Protect Yourself!


We've all met sociopaths. Unfortunately sometimes they hold a place of power in your life, whether they are your employer, your teacher, a spouse or someone you thought was your friend. Sociopaths are people that you need to be aware of so you can protect yourself from their toxic energy.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/sociopath

"Very little of what they say actually checks out in terms of facts or reality, but they're extremely skillful at making the things they say sound believable,"

Taken from the fascinating book, The Sociopath Next Door, which says that 4% of the population are sociopaths.

10 signs for spotting a sociopath

#1) Sociopaths are charming.

#2) Sociopaths are more spontaneous and intense than other people

#3) Sociopaths are incapable of feeling shame, guilt or remorse.

#4) Sociopaths invent outrageous lies about their experiences.

#5) Sociopaths seek to dominate others and "win" at all costs.

#6) Sociopaths tend to be highly intelligent

#7) Sociopaths are incapable of love 

#8) Sociopaths speak poetically

#9) Sociopaths never apologize.

#10) Sociopaths are delusional and literally believe that what they say becomes truth

That's how sociopaths operate. As they're speaking, they capture your imagination and sound reasonable, even authoritative. But in the clear light of day, what they are actually saying is absurd... even dangerous.






How To Survive a Sociopath Boss

http://www.forbes.com/sites/cherylsnappconner/2013/09/29/how-to-survive-a-sociopath-boss/

Trust your instincts. Martha Stout’s research shows that statistically, the odds you are dealing with a sociopath are higher than you may think. When a boss starts to publicly castigate you (or others) for mistakes you didn’t actually make, take note. When joking becomes sarcastic, one or two individuals are perpetually targeted, or a boss maliciously plays team members against each other, there may be a deeper issue at play. Take notes, and proceed with caution.

Keep Records. A true sociopath generally operates one on one, and thrives on situations they can turn into a “he said/she said” scenario after the fact. To the extent you can document instructions and commitments in email (or even through recordings, if you are careful) you will be further ahead.

Call the person out and defend yourself (carefully). If you can do so calmly and without losing your temper, stop the meeting, stop the discussion, set a one on one appointment with the individual in question, and do whatever else is necessary to hold your ground and avoid becoming a pawn. This will send the message that you’re not a victim to be played or walked over. Proceed with care—the effort to defend yourself could backfire if it makes you an even bigger target, or allows a mean-spirited boss to view you (or paint you) as disrespectful or uncooperative—but ultimately, you will be better off for having carefully defended the boundary that you are not willing to be treated unfairly or “played”.

Never, ever trust that person again. Sociopaths are a breed of leopards that will not (and cannot) change their spots. They may be smooth and persuasive; they may promise you anything—but once a person like this has been unveiled, avoid at all costs any scenario that forces you to work with them again.

Leave. If the organization is unable or unwilling to deal with the situation, your only hope is to leave. This is a scenario that occurs with surprising frequency—it is hard for an organization to fathom that a single individual could be at the core of so much harm, or the company may fear the repercussions of firing a person whose propensity for sabotage is known to be strong. In any case, if you are unable to move or transfer and the company is unwilling to deal with the individual directly, your most productive choice will likely be to move on.

Provide help and support for others. If you’ve survived a situation like this, you are in a uniquely beneficial position to help and support others. This, too, will be a favorable outcome of the hard won experience you’ve gained.

So if you’ve met or experienced a full-on sociopath in the workplace (and statistically the odds are high there’ve been several) treat the situation with care. Move yourself as speedily as possible to the point you can remember what you learned—and perhaps even laugh about the memory—as you put it as quickly as possible into the far distant past.

How to Deal With a Sociopath

 http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-a-Sociopath

Recognize the signs that someone is sociopathic. Sociopaths have a personality disorder that prevents them from feeling empathy for others. Although they often seem friendly and likable, they use their charm to get people to do things for them. The following traits are common among sociopaths:[1]
  • Superficial charm; everyone seems to like them.
  • Lack of remorse; they don't feel guilty when they've done something wrong.
  • Lack of empathy; they don't seem to care when someone else is hurt.
  • Propensity to lie; they do it casually, like it's nothing.
  • Incapacity for love; those closest to them realize something is missing.
  • Egocentricity; they light up when they're the center of attention.
  • Delusions of grandeur; they often perceive themselves as superior to others.

Understand what drives a sociopath.
Realize that sociopaths are expert manipulators. 
Don't expect a sociopath to care about your feelings.
To deal with a sociopath, think like one.
Consider avoiding the person completely.
Put up your guard.
Be skeptical about anything the person tells you.
Carry on a neutral conversation. 
Never share personal information.
Avoid talking about what makes you happy or upset. 
  • Avoid complaining, since any information about your weaknesses, things that cause you mental, emotional or psychological pain, or anything that annoys, bothers or hurts you they will use as arsenal to terrorize you.
  • Don't let the person know when your feelings are hurt. The sociopath will be more likely to repeat the behavior so you'll get hurt again. 
Keep your cards close to your chest
Show the sociopath that you're on to him or her. 





Do not become indebted to a sociopath.
Document harassment if it takes place.

If you feel the person is trying to undermine you, it's important to start collecting evidence. Since sociopaths are often quite popular, you might find yourself in a situation where no one believes you unless you have proof that you're being wronged. Save emails and other correspondence so you can share it with the other parties involved if need be