Stand UP! Stop Bullying! Don't be a Bystander

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Posted by Ainsle Knott on Tuesday, May 26, 2015

http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2012/05/be-difference-stop-bullying.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2012/02/pink-shirt-day-stop-bullying.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2012/11/great-video-it-gets-better-anti-bullying.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2011/07/mean-girls-syndrome-alive-and-thriving.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2015/06/whos-sociopath-and-how-to-protect.html

Great Video-" It Gets Better"- Anti Bullying

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If you have read my blog you will know that I am a strong supporter of anti-bullying campaigns. So this is pretty cool and I hope that lots of kids watch as I think it will help them. I think it will help alot of people actually. 

Vigilantism & Suicide & A Message of Hope!

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Even though I'm in Mexico I've been following the Amanda Todd story. It's shocking and heart-breaking and it makes a person angry and frustrated and saddened. Why?  

Why is the question? 
Why did that have to happen?
Why couldn't people back her up and support her before all this happened?
Why is it such a big deal for a girl to show her breasts?

Men show themselves, but our culture is still so in the dark ages. Even though women have the right to show themselves in public Canada, they don't because to the stigma and staring that goes with it.

Let's face it most men in the U.S. and Canada can not handle it. They are raised this way. It's the parents and society's fault. Indigeonous mother's in Africa and Brazil do not have this issue.

Mexican mom's breastfeed all the time and no one bats an eye.

But men in Canada and the U.S. you have some big issues. 

From what  I read, was that this poor child of just 12, exploring sexuality, alone, normal...(but abnormal because nowadays computers are involved). made a mistake that 100's and thousands of other kids are making.

But it didn't stop there, she was then bullied for it, as well as stocked.

Why are girls and women so judgemental? Why are teenage girls so vicious to one another? Why are so many children dying from bullying?

Now there's an hactivist group Anonymous out there and they are doing some stocking of there own.

I have a lot of questions and not to many answers, just opinions.

I have an old memory of a show the Twilight Zone.

Do you remember that show, TWILIGHT ZONE?

Anyways this lady has been raped /or attacked and is terribly shaken.
Her husband asks her who was it, but she can't remember. They go to the doctor and she gets sent home. There's all sorts of bad feelings but she seems to be healing so they go out for a drive.

While out, the women panics when she sees a man, and says "There he is, THAT'S THE GUY!" The man says "Are you sure?" and she says "YES!" So the man gets out of the car and runs after the man.

Then he comes back all shaken and upset. She asks what's wrong. "Nothing, Nothing...let's go home!"
I think they go home or go eat...anyways at some point she looks out the window and shouts..."THERE, THAT'S THE MAN!!"

And the husband, looks terrified and sick because you know he did something bad to someone else...and it wasn't the right person.

So my message is that I was really thrilled to think that a hacktivist group  could bring someone to justice. Happy that Amanda may get some justice. But now hearing some things that someone may do something they regret because they don't have all the info and because they are running high on emotion and pain.
So please take care. 

I'm praying for Amanda's family, and everyone who loved her, and everyone who hurt her, because you need help. I'm praying that the kids that thought and said terrible things to her and others, really stop and think if they are treating others as they wanted to be treated.

My question is Why? Why is that simple little rule so hard to follow. TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WISH TO BE TREATED!! 

So simple. Please teach your children and remind yourself each and everyday. It's not hard and it will bring so much peace. Peace is what we all need, especially Amanda Todd and everyone who loved her.

R.I.P Amanda. 

 I also wanted to say is that I do not think the video should be shown in school. It needs to be shown by the parent to the child in a safe environment where the parent can really debrief and discuss deeply the personal issues that this video will bring out. The school is not the place.
http://blogs.vancouversun.com/2012/10/22/ministry-memo-cautions-teachers-about-showing-amanda-todd-video-in-class/


Related links :
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2012/05/be-difference-stop-bullying.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2012/02/pink-shirt-day-stop-bullying.html 
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/07/mean-girls-syndrome-alive-and-thriving.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/11/kindness-concert-kindness-flag-project.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/02/arresting-mentally-ill-8-years-olds.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/05/2012-revolution-has-begun-lets-meditate.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/03/love-is-energy-pass-it-on.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/10/end-corporate-greed-demand-democracy.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/05/miss-representation-media-message.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/03/dignity-project.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/06/end-war-on-drugs-change-your-words.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/04/power-of-narrative-and-social-change.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/04/change-education-system.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2012/01/poverty-journey-mla-jagrup-brar.html
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.mx/2011/04/forgiveness-is-creative-act.html

Be the Difference- STOP BULLYING

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Yesterday my little girl came home and she was telling me about how they were talking about bullying and what happens. They were even discussing suicide which shocked me a bit. I asked her why, and she explained that sometimes when kids are really bullied they commit suicide. "Wow," I said," how did you feel.?" "How did the other kids feel, were you upset?". She said she was okay. Pretty heavy things to be talking about in grade school but that is exactly where the bullying is coming from and growing everyday. We can all make a difference. This movie will make a difference, but kids need to see it!

I hate that when people say "Oh they are just being kids." That's crap. We have to all work together and really teach our children to treat others as they wish to be treated. Teach them how to respond when kids taunt them or their friends. Let them know they are not alone. When someone is being singled out by a bully, take that kid's side, and get others to join. Don't let the bully win.

I've blogged alot about bullying. Recently I put my daughter into school. It was hard as the bullies/mean girls are one of the big issues why I didn't want her to go and one of the most difficult things to deal it. We were shocked at the things they said and did. I have been protecting my girl from this. It's a big reason we homeschooled.

I didn't want her damaged. I was horribly bullied through my youth and I didn't want her to feel that pain. She has though been hurt. Thankfully she tells me what's going on and I constanting try to scope out the situation and let her know I have her back.  Luckily the teachers and principal have been really great addressing things. For now I feel pretty good right, but I really don't know if I want to keep exposing her to this negativity. 

We have talked about all of it and we have addressed it and we are constantly talking about it and how we can handle different situations.  It's a tough battle, as it is so emmersed in our entire environment, school, community, work, our whole welfare system, the police...it's everywhere, it's a nightmare.

But WE MUST NEVER GIVE UP,  WE MUST STAY STRONG AND UNITED!   Get educated about what you can do to stop it and act! You could save a life!


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Related posts
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2011/07/diffuse-mean-girl-syndrome-encourage.html 
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2012/02/pink-shirt-day-stop-bullying.html 
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2011/07/mean-girls-syndrome-alive-and-thriving.html 
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2011/11/kindness-concert-kindness-flag-project.html 
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2011/02/arresting-mentally-ill-8-years-olds.html 

Stop Bullying- The crumpled paper project 
(this was shared on Facebook-not sure who started it) 
A teacher in New York was teaching her class about bullying and gave them the following exercise to perform. She had the children take a piece of paper and told them to crumple it up, stamp on it and really mess it up but do not rip it. Then she had them unfold the paper, smooth it out and look at how scarred and dirty is was. She then told them to tell it they’re sorry. Now even though they said they were sorry and tried to fix the paper, she pointed out all the scars they left behind. And that those scars will never go away no matter how hard they tried to fix it. That is what happens when a child bully’s another child, they may say they’re sorry but the scars are there forever. The looks on the faces of the children in the classroom told her the message hit home. Pass it on or better yet, if you're a parent or a teacher, do it with your child/children.