Showing posts with label lack of empathy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label lack of empathy. Show all posts

Thursday, May 1, 2025

A Mother's Plea

I copied and pasted this here so more people will read and hopefully will not be ignored

It's painful but honest. This could be your child or mine and it's TERRIFYING. 💔😢


Open your hearts.❤️ We NEED great change and we need it NOW!

COPIED from Christine Moore's FB page

 We’re leaving Sunday for Nelson.


It’s a trip that comes with heavy emotion.


The K9 search is about to begin—something I’ve been pushing for since January. The conditions finally allow it: the weather is safe for the handler and the dogs, and the terrain is ready to be searched. What I’ve long fought for is now happening.


And yet I go with a weight in my chest that’s hard to put into words.


This is the tightrope I walk—every single day.


My heart tells me I need to be there, just in case.

My mind tells me to stay away, just in case.


This is the war I live with: the hope for answers and the fear of what those answers might be.


We won’t be part of the search itself. That’s left to the experts. But my heart wins over my mind.

So we go.


We go because love demands it.

We go because the unknown is worse than the truth.

We go because no parent should wait in silence far away while others search for their child.


Nelson is a beautiful place—on the surface. But for me, the city carries a heaviness that’s hard to explain. A darkness that doesn’t come from its landscape, but from the tension just beneath it—a city at war with its own conscience when it comes to the unhoused.


I’ve seen comments comparing Nelson to Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside.

Let me be clear:


I’ve walked the DTES.

I’ve driven those streets looking for my son.

I’ve stepped into shelters. Sat with people others pass by. Looked into eyes that still carry pieces of the children they once were.


There is no comparison.


People living on the DTES describe it as “the end of the road.”

It’s not just a crisis—it’s apocalyptic.

It’s a place where hope fights for air.

And yet even there, humanity is still alive—if we’re willing to see it.


I’ve been called a bleeding heart.

If that means refusing to look away, refusing to dehumanize people suffering on our streets, then I’ll wear that name with pride.


Because when I walked into places others called “drug dens,” I didn’t see criminals—I saw stories. I saw pain. I saw the wreckage of a system that lets trauma, mental illness, and addiction fester until people are unrecognizable even to their own families.


And I’ve spoken with frontline officers, too. One officer told me plainly: even they don’t feel safe walking the DTES.

And that should never be the case—not for them, and not for the people forced to live there.


He spoke of families who are desperate—watching their children spiral while they’re powerless to intervene. The lack of wraparound supports is so severe that some parents—grieving, afraid, and helpless—feel there are no options left. That letting their child go is less painful than watching them slowly disappear on the streets, in the throes of addiction.


And I ask myself this every day with Christopher:


If he’s in the grip of heavy drug use…

If his schizophrenia is unmanaged and worsening…

If he’s alone, vulnerable, and unable to access care—

How is that anything but a danger to himself?


How can we say he’s choosing this, when his ability to choose is so deeply impaired?


We’ve created a system where even when someone’s life is visibly at risk, families can’t step in unless they meet a narrow legal threshold.

We say it’s about freedom. But what kind of freedom is this?


We keep debating forced treatment, but no one is talking enough about the real issue: what comes after.


There’s no plan.

No coordinated system of care.

No guaranteed housing.

No long-term support.


And cleaning up encampments is not a solution.

People don’t disappear—they move.

They rebuild.

Because what other option do they have?


Meanwhile, the drug supply grows more toxic.

The dealers keep making money.

And the body count keeps rising.


This is not a sustainable system.

It is a slow, collective collapse—and we are watching it in real time.


We need wraparound services.

We need intervention pathways that allow families to act.

We need to treat addiction and mental illness as the urgent, complex health crises they are—not as moral failures.


And I know—some people in Nelson may question why I’m speaking out, because I don’t live there.


But I’m not here looking for approval.

I’m not asking anyone to like me.

I’m asking people to start talking about real solutions.


Solutions that provide safety in their communities

—and at the same time—

ensure the people who are struggling on the streets receive proper, humane, evidence-based care.


These two things are not in conflict.

You can care about public safety and still care about people.

In fact, true public safety depends on it.


Christopher is not invisible.

He is not disposable.

He is a person.

He is my son.

And he is loved beyond words.


I will keep searching for him.

I will keep fighting for him.

And I will keep speaking—for him, and for every family still begging to be heard.


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If this resonates with you, please don’t scroll past.

• Share this post.

• Start the conversation in your community.

• Push for change in your province, in your policies, in your people.

• Because if we don’t fight for the vulnerable, who will?


Someone out there is missing.

Someone out there is still alive—but barely hanging on.

And someone like me is still searching.


For me, that someone is Christopher.

Monday, August 14, 2017

Choose Love-Be a Good Neighbour!

 I saw a disturbing post about the world being on the brink of nuclear war and Nazi's in the streets....sound familiar...only this wasn't in the past ...it's right now...this weekend.

STOP!! Right now....
Look at the state of the world and think well about the future you want for yourself, your families and those you love.

Do not let history repeat. Practice love. Teach Love! Love yourself, your family, your neighbour, love the differences. Never embrace hate, greed or ignorance or this will be our fate. Watch this film from 1952.. it was made 10 years before I was born. I saw it in grade 5. It was shocking and imprinted deeply...but it would take years before I realized it.

Warning: violence - not suitable for young children or those triggered by violence.



Related Links
https://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2016/06/love-thy-neighbour.html
https://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2016/06/listen-humanity-speech.html
https://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2015/11/have-you-heard-of-peace-prayer-flag.html









Beatles - All You Need Is Love from SimDo on Vimeo.

The Beatles Lyrics
"All You Need Is Love"

Love, love, love
Love, love, love
Love, love, love

There's nothing you can do that can't be done
Nothing you can sing that can't be sung
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It's easy

Nothing you can make that can't be made
No one you can save that can't be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time
It's easy

All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

Love, love, love
Love, love, love
Love, love, love

All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

Nothing you can know that isn't known
Nothing you can see that isn't shown
Nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be
It's easy

All you need is love
All you need is love
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need

All you need is love (All together, now!)
All you need is love (Everybody!)
All you need is love, love
Love is all you need
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Yee-hai! (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)

Yesterday (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Love is all you need (Love is all you need)
Oh yeah! (Love is all you need)
She loves you, yeah yeah yeah (Love is all you need)
She loves you, yeah yeah yeah (Love is all you need)

Monday, November 16, 2015

Did you ever see Charlie Wilson's War or Rawanda Hotel? Do You Remember Guatemala?

Did you ever see this movie? Well I saw it quite a while back.



 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Charlie_Wilson's_War
Making all the necessary arrangements, Herring persuades Charlie to fly out and visit the Pakistani leadership. Pakistani President Zia and two top military aides are skeptical of Wilson's courtesy call.

They complain about the inadequate American support in opposing the Soviet Union, with the sad result being that their country is being flooded with Afghans fleeing the warfare. Zia persuades Charlie to visit a major Pakistan-based Afghan refugee camp.

Charlie is deeply moved by the sprawling camp, the endless squalor, the ceaseless misery, the children maimed by land mines, the constant deaths and funerals, the struggle to find food, and, yet, amazingly, the obvious determination by camp inhabitants to fight the Soviets.

Charlie leaves the refugee camp a changed man. Immediately meeting with a regional CIA chief, Wilson is frustrated by the official's insistence on a low-key approach against the Soviet occupation of Afghanistan in order to avoid direct American implication. Charlie returns home to lead an effort to substantially increase funding to the mujahideen.
 Read more here or watch the movie

Here's another interesting excerpt from Wikipedia:

George Crile III, author of the book on which the film is based, wrote that the mujahideen's victory in Afghanistan ultimately opened a power vacuum for bin Laden: "By the end of 1993, in Afghanistan itself there were no roads, no schools, just a destroyed country—and the United States was washing its hands of any responsibility. It was in this vacuum that the Taliban and Osama bin Laden would emerge as the dominant players. It is ironic that a man who had almost nothing to do with the victory over the Red Army, Osama bin Laden, would come to personify the power of the jihad."

So back then everyone thought this was the answer...but it wasn't and now we have drones and other terrible things. WAR IS NEVER THE ANSWER.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guatemalan_Civil_War

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The saddest most disturbing part I found was at the end of the movie, where Charlie asks the US government to spend $1 million and go in a rebuild all the schools, so that that the children who had lost everything and hated the US would know that they had actually helped.

Now maybe that's all Hollywood or maybe it's the truth.

I believe children are forgotten in war and when you kill someone's parents and that child has no loving authority figure to guide them, especially if the area has been bombed to shit, than is it any wonder these children wouldn't grow up to be vengeful.

I have always said "Monsters make Monsters" meaning that if a child grows up beaten and abuse and hurt over and over they can not learn to love. They have no empathy. Empathy is a learned trait.

This is how wars start and continue. We must stop this from occurring over and over.

We must be peaceful, we must have social justice. We must address climate justice so that people have the opportunity to feed themselves and not be displaced.

We are coming to a crossroads, we have actually arrived in many ways. The choice will be ours. We must walk the talk and really be peacekeepers if we do  not want our children to live through the horrors that many children and young adults think are just memories for old men at Remembrance day.



So as we all get back to the work week think carefully about what you say and how you say it. Think of peace. Because we all want to live in a peaceful world right.
http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2015/11/we-all-need-to-be-lighthouses-of-peace.html

We don't want our little cherubs living through this.
https://twitter.com/Free_Media_Hub
sign the petition @
http://www.genocideinsyria.org/#!stop-the-bombs-petition-/hn6rq 

And keep in mind that nothing is fair in this world and while we try to take the higher road, there are going to obvious signs of inequalites in this world

Facebook gets flak for Beirut-Paris 'double standard'

http://www.aljazeera.com/news/2015/11/facebook-flak-reaction-paris-attacks-151115071745802.html

Paris: You Don’t Want to Read This

 http://www.commondreams.org/views/2015/11/15/paris-you-dont-want-read

And if you haven't really thought thing through and you just want to ignore it all, well then you should watch this movie. I watched it last night. I had to fast forward through the really graphic parts but it gives a good portrayal of what can happen to people. 

People who are the same as you and I but get left behind with no one to help because of the their colour or nationality. This is based on a true story. If you have no idea what if feels like to be in the wrong place and have a war break out, then you should, because all of you that think that bombing some place is a good idea, then watch this. 

"We Need to Help One Another- it is the only thing keeping us alive"




If you don't know what is going on, and it's actually very complicated but this cartoon tells you how it all started.

This Cartoon Succinctly Explains The Background To The Syrian Conflict

Click the link to see the whole story

http://www.unilad.co.uk/articles/this-cartoon-succinctly-explains-the-background-to-the-syrian-conflict/




Instead we need to be Lighthouses of Peace, we must demand social justice and that interconnects with climate justice so strongly, we can not have one with out the other. 

This is the crossroads. Make a stand for them, make a stand for our future and children's future. Enough is enough... we all have rights http://tinawinterlik.blogspot.ca/2015/11/article-25-right-to-adequate-standard.html 

We must peacefully demand and vote for our rights. We must practice peace at home and in our community and in our actions.  









War, huh, yeah
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Uh-huh
War, huh, yeah
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Say it again, y'all
War, huh, good God
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Listen to me
Ohhh, war, I despise
Because it means destruction
Of innocent lives
War means tears
To thousands of mothers eyes
When their sons go to fight
And lose their lives
I said, war, huh
Good God, y'all
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Say it again
War, whoa, Lord
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Listen to me
War, it ain't nothing
But a heartbreaker
War, friend only to the undertaker
Ooooh, war
It's an enemy to all mankind
The point of war blows my mind
War has caused unrest
Within the younger generation
Induction then destruction
Who wants to die
Aaaaah, war-huh
Good God y'all
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Say it, say it, say it
War, huh
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Listen to me
War, huh, yeah
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Uh-huh
War, huh, yeah
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Say it again y'all
War, huh, good God
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Listen to me
War, it ain't nothing but a heartbreaker
War, it's got one friend
That's the undertaker
Ooooh, war, has shattered
Many a young mans dreams
Made him disabled, bitter and mean
Life is much to short and precious
To spend fighting wars these days
War can't give life
It can only take it away
Ooooh, war, huh
Good God y'all
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Say it again
War, whoa, Lord
What is it good for
Absolutely nothing
Listen to me
War, it ain't nothing but a heartbreaker
War, friend only to the undertaker
Peace, love and understanding
Tell me, is there no place for them today
They say we must fight to keep our freedom
But Lord knows there's got to be a better way
Ooooooh, war, huh
Good God y'all
What is it good for
You tell me
Say it, say it, say it, say it
War, huh
Good God y'all
What is it good for
Stand up and shout it
Nothing

http://www.oldielyrics.com/lyrics/edwin_starr/war.html

Thursday, February 26, 2015

What do you do when the system is against the victim?

Very disturbing. I cringe and curl back watching it. I always remember years ago with the actor who played on the television show, Elizabeth Montgomery- Samantha ,on Bewitched, and she played in a movie where she was raped and her husband doesn't believe her .

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Case_of_Rape  This is 1974 people...surely we can change?? See movie below. I haven't watched it yet, again, and not sure I can...

 I was just young when I saw it and it deeply imprinted me. Please watch and let's change the system.



Published on Feb 24, 2015 Written/Directed/Edited by Cynthia Kao Cast (in alphabetical order) Pam Murphy (Officer Mulligan) Mark Schroeder (Tom) Paul Welsh (Officer Sakula) Crew Yesel "Yak" Manrique (titles) Ed Spangler (sound) Allyson Schwarz (gaffer) Rose Arscott (pa) Zoe Andrikidis (pa) Special Thanks Jennie Church-Cooper Donna Thomas Ed Spangler Code Fischer Mary Sasson Bill Posley Honora Talbott Dave Thuene Connie Shin

Friday, February 14, 2014

Indiegogo and a year in Bali Dream

Blog post by Tina Winterlik © 2014
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So today was Valentines and I am feeling very happy at the moment but I was really disappointed and sad early.

It should have been the HAPPIEST day, but for Angel it sucked...BiG TiMe!! Let me explain.

Last night we made the chocolate cupcakes for the party they were having at school today. Remember Angel has been homeschooled mostly. Except for kindergarten, half of grade 4 and now. And the great thing about that is that she really wasn't exposed to the meanesss of kids. If you know what I mean. Empathy is seriously lacking out there people. And if you have a kid I hope you will seriously examine their behaviour and yours and figure out where you stand in all this.

Like I said, it should have been the best day. Last night we baked chocolate cupcakes. Angel diligently hand drew and made each Valentines Card for all 27 kids in her class.


Valentines by Angel Winterlik © 2014

Valentines by Angel Winterlik © 2014

Valentines by Angel Winterlik © 2014

Valentines by Angel Winterlik © 2014

Valentines by Angel Winterlik © 2014

Valentines by Angel Winterlik © 2014

  We figured out what she would wear, they were having a party and I said why not wear the dress I bought you. We had scored and got it for $11. But she hadn't worn it at Christmas or New Years and I said wear it because you will grow out of it before you get to. So then we decided to make a little top hat...similar to Alice in Alice in Wonderland we were thinking. So we figured that out and it turned out great!!


So in the morning, I got her dressed and off she went with the cupcakes, she was nervous, but I said she looked beautiful and I prayed she have the best day ever...



But when I picked her up from school ...it wasn't the best day ever...she said that 3 kids in her class had been rude to her and that one boy in the grade 7's pointed at her during assembly and then all the grade 7's laughed...which humiliated her.

Her teacher sorted out the kids in her class and they had to write notes of apologies... but still...this has damaged her...she said she never wants to dress up for Valentines again :(.

Darn you haters... why...why did you do that to my little angel.

I was mad and sad when she told me. I told her "haters going to hate but lovers going to love". But the damage has been done. School sucks. It makes me mad that I put her in the system for her to be trampled by mean kids that have no empathy.  I told her...let's quit. I'll pull you out right now...but she said no...she loves her teacher.

Still it makes me want to go a different route. I don't want these kinds of things to keep crushing her beautiful spirit.

One day they had a sub and she didn't know Angel had been homeschooled and had never gone up to write on the blackboard. Angel volunteered and as some point made a small mistake and all the kids started shouting behind her and she burst into tears...and sat down. Now she says she will never do that again.

What to do...what to do..I had an idea...I saw this thing a while ago for a school in Bali. A green school.  http://www.greenschool.org/ I would like to take Angel there for a year. I think I want to do something radical and start a Indiegogo campaign and see if we can raise money to go. Would you support us?

I'm almost finished my course...so hopefully I can work from there..on my computer...I don't know how much money we'd need but I know we are very good at budgeting and those of you that have followed on our Adventurez in Mexico know we could provide you will lots of tips, photos, videos and entertainment if we went. http://adventurezinmexico.blogspot.ca/
http://adventurezinmexico2008.blogspot.ca/

Anyways...that's my plan. What do you think? She such a talented and smart person, would you help us so that she can blossom to the full potential that she can be. Check out this...she made these.