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We've all met sociopaths. Unfortunately sometimes they hold a place of power in your life, whether they are your employer, your teacher, a spouse or someone you thought was your friend. Sociopaths are people that you need to be aware of so you can protect yourself from their toxic energy.
"Very little of what they say actually checks out in terms of facts or
reality, but they're extremely skillful at making the things they say sound believable,"
Taken from the fascinating book, The Sociopath Next Door, which says that 4% of the population are sociopaths.
#2) Sociopaths are more spontaneous and intense than other people
#3) Sociopaths are incapable of feeling shame, guilt or remorse.
#4) Sociopaths invent outrageous lies about their experiences.
#5) Sociopaths seek to dominate others and "win" at all costs.
#6) Sociopaths tend to be highly intelligent
#7) Sociopaths are incapable of love
#8) Sociopaths speak poetically
#9) Sociopaths never apologize.
#10) Sociopaths are delusional and literally believe that what they say becomes truth
That's how sociopaths operate. As they're speaking, they capture your
imagination and sound reasonable, even authoritative. But in the clear
light of day, what they are actually saying is absurd... even dangerous.
Trust your instincts. Martha Stout’s research shows
that statistically, the odds you are dealing with a sociopath are higher
than you may think. When a boss starts to publicly castigate you (or
others) for mistakes you didn’t actually make, take note. When joking
becomes sarcastic, one or two individuals are perpetually targeted, or a
boss maliciously plays team members against each other, there may be a
deeper issue at play. Take notes, and proceed with caution.
Keep Records. A true sociopath generally operates
one on one, and thrives on situations they can turn into a “he said/she
said” scenario after the fact. To the extent you can document
instructions and commitments in email (or even through recordings, if
you are careful) you will be further ahead.
Call the person out and defend yourself (carefully). If
you can do so calmly and without losing your temper, stop the meeting,
stop the discussion, set a one on one appointment with the individual in
question, and do whatever else is necessary to hold your ground and
avoid becoming a pawn. This will send the message that you’re not a
victim to be played or walked over. Proceed with care—the effort to
defend yourself could backfire if it makes you an even bigger target, or
allows a mean-spirited boss to view you (or paint you) as disrespectful
or uncooperative—but ultimately, you will be better off for having
carefully defended the boundary that you are not willing to be treated
unfairly or “played”.
Never, ever trust that person again. Sociopaths are a
breed of leopards that will not (and cannot) change their spots. They
may be smooth and persuasive; they may promise you anything—but once a
person like this has been unveiled, avoid at all costs any scenario that
forces you to work with them again.
Leave. If the organization is unable or unwilling to
deal with the situation, your only hope is to leave. This is a scenario
that occurs with surprising frequency—it is hard for an organization to
fathom that a single individual could be at the core of so much harm,
or the company may fear the repercussions of firing a person whose
propensity for sabotage is known to be strong. In any case, if you are
unable to move or transfer and the company is unwilling to deal with the
individual directly, your most productive choice will likely be to move
on.
Provide help and support for others. If you’ve
survived a situation like this, you are in a uniquely beneficial
position to help and support others. This, too, will be a favorable
outcome of the hard won experience you’ve gained.
So if you’ve met or experienced a full-on sociopath in the workplace
(and statistically the odds are high there’ve been several) treat the
situation with care. Move yourself as speedily as possible to the point
you can remember what you learned—and perhaps even laugh about the
memory—as you put it as quickly as possible into the far distant past.
Recognize the signs that someone is sociopathic.
Sociopaths have a personality disorder that prevents them from feeling
empathy for others. Although they often seem friendly and likable, they
use their charm to get people to do things for them. The following
traits are common among sociopaths:[1]
Superficial charm; everyone seems to like them.
Lack of remorse; they don't feel guilty when they've done something wrong.
Lack of empathy; they don't seem to care when someone else is hurt.
Propensity to lie; they do it casually, like it's nothing.
Incapacity for love; those closest to them realize something is missing.
Egocentricity; they light up when they're the center of attention.
Delusions of grandeur; they often perceive themselves as superior to others.
Understand what drives a sociopath. Realize that sociopaths are expert manipulators. Don't expect a sociopath to care about your feelings. To deal with a sociopath, think like one. Consider avoiding the person completely. Put up your guard. Be skeptical about anything the person tells you. Carry on a neutral conversation. Never share personal information. Avoid talking about what makes you happy or upset.
Avoid complaining, since any information about your weaknesses,
things that cause you mental, emotional or psychological pain, or
anything that annoys, bothers or hurts you they will use as arsenal to
terrorize you.
Don't let the person know when your feelings are hurt. The sociopath
will be more likely to repeat the behavior so you'll get hurt again.
Keep your cards close to your chest Show the sociopath that you're on to him or her.
Do not become indebted to a sociopath. Document harassment if it takes place.
If you feel the person is trying to undermine you, it's important to
start collecting evidence. Since sociopaths are often quite popular, you
might find yourself in a situation where no one believes you unless you
have proof that you're being wronged. Save emails and other
correspondence so you can share it with the other parties involved if
need be
Very Powerful and Wise Words spoken so eloquently. So grateful for this as I needed reminding. It's been a rough week. I quit my job. I had to but will not explain here, let's just say it was an unhealthy situation and I had to remove myself. That said, to be unemployed, even temporarily is scary. But when I put on my "happy face" I am not unemployed, I am just self employed again.
I feel the need to paint. I have lots of great ideas that I haven't been able to focus on because of work and life issues but now I am going to make time.
Depression exists for a reason.
Many of the great thinkers and artists of our time created light because they knew dark.
Posted by Shi on Thursday, June 25, 2015
This is a wonderful video especially because we just saw Inside Out and that's a GREAT movie.
Really beautiful and the short Lava was also very moving.
I don't know if it was the solar flare /storm or the solstice but there is sure a lot of energy out there and trying to harness it and embrace it can be a challenge. If you are struggling as I am, I send you love and light and many prayers that we shall rise to our challenges and enlighten others...as Shi says "It's our job!!" So now I have a new job...I was employed by the Universe/God/Life all along...I just didn't really recognize it. I had inklings of it but so nice to have someone describe it so clearly. Thank you Shi!!
Stay tuned to see more creative things coming from me soon!! :D It's going to be the BEST SUMMER EVER!! Right? ;)
Today's event was called Toast the Coast Before the Coast is Toast and it runs
from 4 p.m. to 10 p.m. It's being held to raise awareness about the
ecological danger of new pipelines and the sharp increase in tanker
traffic that will occur if they're ever built.
"Shell is right now
moving its Arctic fleet into position to begin drilling for oil in
Alaska's ice-covered waters—oil they want to eventually ship in
super-tankers South along the coast," the Toast the Coast web page states.
One of the speakers will be Oscar-winning actor Jane Fonda, who's been a vociferous critic of Shell's plans.
Toast the Coast will also showcase First Nations artist Roy Henry Vickers' large piece of art depicting a salmon. It's a reflection
of the important role that indigenous people are playing in the fight to
save the planet.
First Nations artist Roy
Henry Vickers
First Nations artist Roy
Henry Vickers
Here are a few photos of the Jane Fonda- I couldn't believe she was actually here and I was videoing.
Her speech was passionate and totally right on. We need everyone we can to speak out and I so grateful she has joined the cause. Save Our Coast- or as they have stated Toast the Coast Before the Coast is Toast!!!
Jane Fonda- speaking at Toast the Coast- Jericho Beach, Vancouver BC - June 13/2015
Jane Fonda- speaking at Toast the Coast- Jericho Beach, Vancouver BC - June 13/2015
Jane Fonda- speaking at Toast the Coast- Jericho Beach, Vancouver BC - June 13/2015
Hey if you need a job and live near Granville Island- you might want to take at look at the new job board I just made on I Heart Granville Island blog/website
Here is the acknowledgement about the horrible evil things that happened in the Residential schools in Canada. Makes me sick, sad and angry. How could people treat them like that? How could they treat children like that? It's so hard to believe that is why people denied it but now it's out and people must acknowledge this disgusting dark truth about Canada.
Sadly many people still deny this sad history. I pray there will be healing but it will take many many generations and we will have to all work together. It can happen, if we all work together for the environment and for the greater good of all people but Mother Earth comes first and that's in the soul of every indigenous soul.
If we can all love each other and treat each other with love and respect and educate each other, have deep empathy for each other. Hopefully the healing can start and continue but I haven't seen much healing...not on the DTES or on the Highway of Tears... it's not like this isn't all related and many other sad, dreadful events that I won't mention at the moment.
It's going to take a lot of love, education, healing and time.
"Imagine being taken from your parents at five years old and being
beaten for speaking the only language you know. Imagine being subjected
to terrible abuse and made to feel ashamed because your culture was
different. Imagine being a parent and being threatened with jail if you
didn't hand over your children to the system. Imagine being cut off from
your children for ten years. What would that do to your heart and soul?
How would that affect your family?"
"As Canadians, we need to come
together in the spirit of human understanding and friendship and work
side by side to heal the suffering caused and to create opportunities
for real hope and a fair, equal chance at a healthy, prosperous future
that respects cultural differences.
Let us all collectively
commit to genuine change in our relations with the first peoples of this
country. If we do this with the spirit of justice, respectful dialogue
and a commitment to meaningful action then reconciliation and healing is
absolutely possible."
Here is a pdf presentation the City of Vancouver developed to present to the NEB- Spill Impact Presentation. So stupid this has to be done. So glad they did an excellent job. The evidence is obvious, Kinder Morgan has got to go!! No Tankers! No Pipeline.
Hey Everyone, I just wanted to share the new blog I made. It's called "I Heart Granville Island" and I am really happy with my new idea.
I hope you will check it out! I am working really hard on it and I hope it's a huge success. But I need everyone's help. I want to share how wonderful Granville Island. I hope to get all the businesses and artists to let me make videos for them and then share them there.
That's where you come you, I need you to share the blog/videos/info so we can tell all the wonderful people around the world what a super special place Granville Island is. Will you help? I thought you would. :D Thanks!!
May 23, 2015, Nash and his wife, Alicia de Lardé Nash, were killed as the result of a motor vehicle collision
Such very sad news today. I cried when I watched this video now, not sure why it touched me so. He really did have a BEAUTIFUL MIND and she was a wonderful compassionate understanding soul to have loved and care for this man and the issues that he endured.
John Forbes Nash
Jr., a mathematical genius whose struggle with schizophrenia was
chronicled in the 2001 movie "A Beautiful Mind," has died along with his
wife in a car crash on the New Jersey Turnpike. He was 86.
Alicia Nash- http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/amex/nash/peopleevents/p_anash.html
After three years of familial turmoil, Alicia filed for divorce, something that the Hollywood version
of Nash's life left out. With the help of her mother, Alicia raised
their son John on her own. Later he, too, turned out to have
schizophrenia. In 1970 a decade after the divorce and with her
ex-husband struggling just to survive, Alicia took him into her home not
as a husband but as what she called her " boarder." "They
say that a lot of people are left on the back wards of mental
institutions," says Alicia, speaking of her decision to take Nash in.
"And somehow their few chances to get out go by and they just end up
there. So, that was one of the reasons I said, 'Well, I can put you up.'
"
"If she hadn' t taken him in, he would have wound up on the streets,"
believes Nasar. "He had no income. He had no home.
I think that Alicia
saved his life." In the 1980s, John slowly emerged from schizophrenia
and in 1994 he received a Nobel Prize in Economics for the game theory work he completed as a young man. In the spring of 2001, Alicia and John were remarried, 38 years after their divorce
Poor Poor Paige! This is such a sad and disturbing story but doesn't surprise me. The DTES is plagued with issues like this. Much of it stems back to social assistance and lack of funding and services. The system treats people like dirt. And you happen to be aboriginal then it's often less than dirt because you are stigmatized. Somehow people think it's their fault. Enough already!!
There is no one there for the people. I can't even begin to tell you the issues I faced when I was on assistance and to be a child born to an addicted mother trying to survive anyway she could it's just heartbreaking.
You have to hear this video. We NEED CHANGE NOW!!
As she says when are we going to have a proper program to help them not have to resort to survival sex and drug debt collections. WAKE UP PEOPLE!! WAKE UP BC!
“The professional indifference that plagued her life — that prevented
her from receiving a minimal standard of child protection, a minimal
standard of health care and even a minimal standard of education
services — must be the product of a system that has effectively
discounted the value of girls like her.”
"Turpel-Lafond said the investigation is among the most troubling her
office has ever conducted, but it is sadly not unique. She estimates
there are about 100 to 150 aboriginal youth similar to Paige in the
Downtown Eastside. "
I feel so sad for Paige, I am going to say prayers and do a little healing ceremony so she can rest in peace. Shameful, someone needs to be held responsible and it's you and me!! We need to help change this. Please do what you can, now!
Now normally I am Green but for this I am voting NDP! Constance is for the people. Last night my friend asked who she was, I was like, that's Constance Barnes, she's like a celebrity! She really cares about the people and fights for them.
I first became aware of her when I was following Jagrup's Welfare Challenge. http://mlaonwelfare.com/ She is a fine lady who has experienced hard times herself and has been on welfare. She knows the unfairness of the system and she can relate to others who have suffered the same challenges. Her dad Emery Barnes http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emery_Barnes went on welfare many years ago to make a point about the unfairness of it. Sadly nothing has changed. This video is four years old and still nothing is changed, it's time for change!! I believe that Constance is one of The Changerzz-http://thechangerzz.blogspot.ca/
Please vote for her. Defeat Hedy Fry and let's get someone in here who will really make a difference and move forward in the positive ways that we need. http://constancebarnes.ndp.ca/about Constance is a popular municipal leader and tourism
professional with the experience and determination to deliver results as
Vancouver Centre’s next MP. She’s ready to get to work with Tom Mulcair’s NDP team to:
take back our coast by stopping environmentally-hazardous oil pipeline development projects;
tackle household debt with plans for affordable childcare and housing; and
defend public health care and reverse Harper’s $36-billion funding cut.
Mom,Vancouver
Centre NDP candidate. Partnership Director Classical Chinese
Garden.Advocate $10 day Child Care Plan. Avid cyclist, lover of all
things chocolate!
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"In a huge victory for First Nations rights, the BC government has
bought out the coal mining permits of the Sacred Headwaters region in
Northern BC in an effort to create a conversation around conservation,
governance and land management.
In light of this victory, Beyond Boarding
has released a portion of their documentary, Northern Grease which
showcases the beauty, actions, and sacrifice of the Klabona Keepers to
fight for the Sacred Headwaters."
If you want to view paradise
Simply look around and view it
Anything you want to, do it
Wanta change the world?
There's nothing
To it
There is no
Life I know
To compare with
Pure imagination
Living there
You'll be free
If you truly
Wish to be
Produced by Chipotle, the film was
created by Academy Award®–winning Moonbot Studios and is set to a remake
of the song “Pure Imagination” from the 1971 film classic “Willy Wonka
and the Chocolate Factory.” Beautifully performed by Grammy
Award®–winning artist Fiona Apple, the song is available for download on
iTunes.
If only they could grow their own gardens and then could sell and share the food. And then I remember about this man. We have all the technology, food just keeps getting more expensive and everything they talk about people living in a city can relate too!! The DTES is our BRONKS and we need to CHANGE that. ARE YOU ONE OF THE CHANGERZ?
"We've gotten threats from the oil and gas industry," Martinez says in Kid Warrior,
a short documentary profiling his pursuits. "Shit like that's scary. My mom wouldn't let me walk home from school for, like, the next two months. For me, it's 14-year-old kid going up against a multimillion dollar industry who will stop at nothing to silence my voice. Weird shit happens when people start to tell the truth about big industries that take advantage of communities and take advantage of resources."
"They
say that a lot of people are left on the back wards of mental
institutions," says Alicia, speaking of her decision to take Nash in.
"And somehow their few chances to get out go by and they just end up
there. So, that was one of the reasons I said, 'Well, I can put you up.'
"
